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The Weaponisation of Male Power | How Misogynists Silence, Intimidate, and Trap Women


Disclaimer

This is a deeply personal and difficult piece to write, but it needs to be said. My goal is not to attack but to highlight a pattern of power and control that too many women experience daily.

If you are in this cycle of abuse, there is a way out. I know how isolating it is to feel unheard, trapped, and alone—but you are not alone.

If you need support, please reach out. My inbox is always open.

📞 National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247

 

The Fear Women Live With Every Day

What happens when a woman walks into a room full of men, expecting a conversation, only to realise she’s walked into an ambush?


If you’ve been following recent events on social media, you may have seen the viral podcast clip where a group of men invited an OnlyFans model onto their show, only to humiliate, degrade, and verbally attack her.


I’d love to say this was an isolated event, but it’s not. It’s a pattern—a tactic used by men who thrive on power and control, weaponising their platforms to belittle women while reaping the rewards of controversy and clicks.


This incident triggered something deep in me. Not just because of how cruel and calculated it was, but because it’s a reflection of something far bigger—the everyday reality of male power being used as a weapon against women.


 

How Men Use Power to Silence and Intimidate Women

When you look deeper into this group of podcasters, their methods become clear:


1. Public Humiliation & Verbal Aggression

Their entire podcast thrives on shaming women to “keep them in check”.(Ironically, one of these men also profits from OnlyFans himself, while another has serious SA allegations against him.)


2. Doxxing & Threats

After their guest spoke out, they threatened to come to her home address as she had signed release forms sharing this information—a blatant attempt at intimidation.


3. Smear Campaigns

They even contacted her family, trying to dig up dirt to discredit her.

This isn’t just podcast drama. This is what abusers do. They manipulate, they gaslight, they isolate, and they use fear to control.


And I know this all too well.


 

Personal Experience: When the System Protects Abusers, Not Victims


Before I reclaimed my voice—before therapy, healing, and learning to stand up for myself—I was trapped in cycles of violent and controlling relationships.


One relationship in particular pushed me to my absolute breaking point. After a long time of financial control, emotional abuse, and manipulation, I finally snapped. In a moment of desperation, I threw a plant pot at my ex’s car—not out of malice, but because I felt powerless and was trying to make him leave me alone.


And that’s all the ammunition he needed.


  • He called the police.

  • He played the victim.

  • He turned the narrative against me.


Meanwhile, he had drained me financially, isolated me from support, and terrorised me behind closed doors. But when the police arrived, they weren’t interested in my side of the story.


I was arrested. I said what I needed to say to get out the next day. And that was it.


To make it worse, a member of my family was a serving police officer at the time, whom I had not spoken to for many years. Instead of helping me, they used their position of power to contact my abuser, twisting the knife even further.


I was trapped. Not just by him, or the familial betrayal, but by a system designed to protect men like him.


 

Why Women Struggle to Speak Out


This is why so many women stay silent.


This is why we don’t report abuse.


This is why we are afraid to stand up for ourselves—because we’ve seen time and time again that the system is not built for us.


The Three Major Barriers Women Face:


  • Abusers are often charming manipulators.They know how to win over authorities and flip the narrative.


  • The justice system fails us.Even with proof of harassment, blackmail, and abuse, police often don’t act unless a woman is seriously injured—or worse, killed.


  • Society excuses male violence.Whether in words or actions, male aggression is normalised, while women are told to “not overreact.”


For those of us who are survivors of childhood abuse, speaking out feels even more impossible. We have been conditioned to believe no one will listen—because, for so long, no one did.


As Louise Perry writes in The Case Against the Sexual Revolution:

“Almost all women are weaker than almost all men, and any feminist analysis of the power dynamic between men and women has to begin with the recognition of this fact.”

This power imbalance isn’t just physical—it’s social, financial, and institutional. And some men know exactly how to exploit it.


 

The Hypocrisy of Male Moral Outrage


Let’s not ignore the blatant hypocrisy of these men who attack women’s choices while profiting from them.


  • They consume adult content but shame the women who create it.

  • They condemn OnlyFans while making money off it.

  • They call women “weak” yet use threats and intimidation when they’re called out.


And when women refuse to stay silent, they lash out—because they fear losing control of the narrative.


 

How We Fight Back | Breaking the Cycle of Abuse and Intimidation


So what do we do? We fight back.


1. We stand together.

The only way abusers win is by isolating us. When women unite, we are a force they cannot silence.


2. We keep speaking out.

Even when they try to scare us. Even when it feels impossible.


3. We hold men accountable.

In their social circles, workplaces, and homes.


❗ Silence is complicity. ❗


 

If You Need Help, You Are Not Alone


If this resonates with you, my inbox is always open.


📞 National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247


And to the men who do this?


We see you. We’re speaking out. And we’re not stopping.


❤️

Angela

Trauma-Informed Hypnotherapist & Family Scapegoating Recovery Specialist






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